Splashing into Plan B

Aqueous painting by Margaret Lazzari -

On the train ride to Your Perfect Life, didja ever glance out the window, shocked to find yourself surrounded by completely unfamiliar scenery?

My friend Maureen calls this Plan B.

As in … “What the heck am I doin’ over here? I am preeeet-ty sure I was supposed to be way the heck over there, for the love of Pete!”

(“For the love of Pete?” … Am I channeling somebody’s grandma now? 😉 )

Back to our tale.

So we’re here when we thought we’d be there. Well, ok, so what do we do with that? If we’re gonna be over here anyway …

Why not hold our noses
and do a cannonball into the water?

Here’s what that looks like:

Take a look around. What’s the scenery like ’round here? What cool new and unexpected things are here just waiting for you to explore?

Did I expect to be dancing with illness? Uh, not really! THAT was not in the master plan! (Or maybe it was! 😉 )

And although I’m happy to say I still design joyful, beautiful and magical things, this one little wrinkle certainly does change a lot of what life looks like these days.

But guess what? Here I am and because I am here, I was prompted to find a meditation program that absolutely soothes my mind.

I was encouraged to explore all sorts of healthy new foods that I assure you would NEVER have wound up on my cookie-dough-lovin’ plate! And I am having an absolute blast with that.

I woulda never been inspired to romp with my utterly brilliant and wisdom-infused friends, bringing us all on a Magical Medical Mystery Tour.

Or to discover what an absolute joy it is, painting with friends.

So I say to you this …

Ok, so you’re not there, you’re here. As long as you’re here, y’may as well enjoy the ride. Take a look around. What unexpected new things are here to play with, to explore and enjoy?

  • So you find yourself unexpectedly single at the age of forty-whatever. What things can you do with this newfound freedom that you never woulda been able to do if you were linked up in the committed bliss you had dreamt of? (And hey, is everyone who’s in a relationship really in the state of bliss you imagine it to be anyway?) What can you now enjoy as your single self?
  • Or maybe you’re in a relationship but not the one you had planned. What’s special about this person and what fun can be had together, right here where you are?
  • So you now live with family rather than out on your own. Can you build a better relationship with them, enjoy old-style family dinners … or what other magic can you create?
  • “At the age of (fill-in-the-blank), I should be (fill-in-the-blank) and livin’ large!” Maybe you are living large, just in a brand new way. Or you could be livin’ large if you just agreed that here you are, you may as well play!

I encourage you to jump right in and splash around a bit.
What does the universe have in store for you,
to surprise and delight you,
hidden in the sparkling waters of Plan B?

John Lennon cannonballs into the pool

Look at all the fun John, Paul and Ringo are having! Special thanks to my beautiful friends … Especially to Sue, for the invitation to splash around and for always encouraging me not to make things “such a big hairy deal” 😉  To Pj, for her willingness to process things with me on a moment’s notice. To Elyse, for her awe-inspiring wisdom, continual support and for bringing these amazing beings into my world. To Gary, for always being there for me through thick and thin. And to Maureen, for taking on the challenge to hold hands and just jump on in! 


  1. Beautiful! I will take these beautiful images with me into DAY 1 of my new life. Yep, I did my cannonball yesterday! I choose to see what the Universe wants to deliver to me today to surprise and delight me!

    Thanks to you, Col!


    • Yaaay! Delighted to hear this. We’re all in this together, Pj! Hugs and love and sparkly bunnies 😉

    • Yay, PJ! I’m so excited and happy for you! May the angels and fairies of the universe pull out all the stops and surprise and delight you in more wats than you could ever imagine!

  2. I simply LOVED it, Col!!! IT is a very humorous yet deep reminder. I’d love to have it re-post it every month or so…!! Love to you and happy splashing!!! <3

  3. Coll,

    What a joy to read your post! I certainly like what you’ve done with your Plan B. Watching how you navigate your path is an inspiration to me. I so appreciate the difference you’ve made in my life!

    Thinking of Robert Frost:

    “…Two roads diverged in a wood, and I —

    I took the one less travelled by,

    and that has made all the difference

  4. Beautiful, Col! This is such powerful awareness. Thank you! And I’m so glad the cannonball image resonated with you! HDIGABTT? And what other magic and miracles are possible, whether we’re over here or over there?! xoxo <3

  5. Well said Col!! Incredibly beautiful artwork!! Song by 10th Ave North on right now as I type this. “You are more than the choices that you make. You are more than the sum of your past mistakes. You are more than the problems that you create. You have been remade”. I love you Col!!

  6. Annie Moffat says:

    Col, that is great. I love the way you’ve captured the joy in acceptance of where we are at. Splash! 🙂

  7. Col, this feels like it came right from your heart and it moved me deeply. This is real life for everyone to one degree or another. Thanks for inspiring us to make the best of it no matter where we find ourselves. Big hugs and love, Bill

  8. LOVE YOU!! You are an inspiration and I am blessed to call you my friend. Big hugs ❤

  9. Col, this was beautiful. A great reminder to look for the silver lining. PS. I’m a huge Holosync fan as well.

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