Riding the Wave: Being the Chooser

Swell: A Year of Waves

What Works:

Taking a moment to rise up
for the big-picture overview, and then choosing …

The sooooo-sick has been comin’ in waves.

I’ve always wanted to be a surfer. When somebody asks how I’m doing these days, I say with a smile, “Ridin’ the waves, ridin’ the waves!” I have no idea if they even know what that means. Usually they don’t ask.

It would be fun to gather up the survey results of what each person envisions “riding the waves” to be …  I bet there would be some good stories in there!

Today I did things differently. And I want to remember. Cuz it’s GOOD. It’s VERY GOOD.

Step One: Get up and eat. Hmmm, sick. Very sick.

Step Two: Cry.

Don’ worry, this is short-lived. As long as I don’t resist it, this crying thing usually passes within like 5 to 10 minutes. If you know me, you know I’m always concerned that somebody who loves me may get worried seeing me in pain or crying or whatever, so if you’re here with me when it happens, you’ll most likely hear me saying, “Don’t worry…” (sob sob or ouch ouch, whatever the case may be) “…Gimme five minutes, this will pass! Don’t worry, don’t worry!”

Step Three: Call boyfriend.

When crying or ouching it’s awfully nice to have a lovely boyfriend of some sort, to cry or ouch with. If you don’t have one’a those, feel free to use the phone-a-friend option. I am a big fan of moving-through things … feelings, pain, whatever … bending and acknowledging it while looking for the gift in it and then allowing it to move through you and on its merry way. Which it does. If I don’t resist, it does. Helps to have a go-to person for that. (Or a few. Whatever it takes!)

Step Four: Omg so so sick, so very sick now.

Step Five: Hmm, it’s passing. Ok now, let’s see, maybe I should do something now that it’s passed. (Y’gotta remember … You’re talkin’ to the former Workaholic Multitasker-of-the-Universe here!)

And here is the key moment, pay attention! That seemingly was a good idea, taking the opportunity to “do” now that the wave is in lull form, right?

Maybe. Let’s see.

So what are the choices here?

Step Six: Here’s where I rise up for a big picture overview, getting the lay of the land. I have never done this before so feel my glee in this. Let’s see, let’s see …

Ok so I have a doctor’s appointment in two hours. Is it best to use up my energy doing and then have none or have ouch on my doorstep when it’s time to go out there into the big, wide world?

Maybe lay down now, then in an hour, get ready to see the doctor. This may be a good way to manage my energy.

Ok, that’s one choice.

Lay of the land … let’s see, let’s see …

MAYbe I get ready to go (bath, dress, etc) now while I’m feeling ok … and then lay down … this way I’m already ready plus taking care of myself.

This feels joyful. Joyful is a good sign.

I’ve never done that before, getting ready first … I tend to be either resting in a sick moment or doing-doing-doing in a non-sick moment and then either way, when the time comes to get ready to leave, I’m all out. All outa energy.

Ok so this is good. I like this.

At a choice point, it works to:

  1. Rise up, get the big-picture overview of the lay of the land.
  2. Observe your choices.
  3. Notice what feels light or joyful.
  4. Choose.

“Okay. The story is about a little wave, bobbing along in the ocean, having a grand old time. He’s enjoying the wind and the fresh air-until he notices the other waves in front of him, crashing against the shore. “My God, this is terrible,” the wave says. “Look what’s going to happen to me!”

Then along comes another wave. It sees the first wave, looking grim, and it says to him, “Why do you look so sad?”

The first wave says, “You don’t understand! We’re all going to crash! All of us waves are going to be nothing! Isn’t it terrible?”

The second wave says, “No, you don’t understand. You’re not a wave, you’re part of the ocean.”

Morrie Schwartz

 Elyse Hope Killoran


  1. Hello my Darling Colleen.

    I have a series of “isms” that I wrote and then created mandala images to reflect the words. There is no doubt that you embody the one about energy, “Energy is all around us – good, bad, and indifferent. Resolve to be a source of energy – radiant in its light, warm in its touch, and soft in its caress.”

    Hugs, kisses, joy, love, always(TM)


    • How beautiful, Mari … I love those words. Energy is one of my big things. I’d love to see that mandala!

      Big hugs,

  2. Colleen,
    I am appreciating this small glimpse into your world and the way you handle this choice point. Thank you for sharing your process and for revealing that, even in the mundane and “ouch” points, there IS a choice point.

    Blessed be!


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